What are the 6 Mistakes that are Holding You Back from success.
6 Mistakes that
are Holding You Back – What to Do…
You have a picture of it in your head—the life that is right for you.
Your side hustle is doing well. You’ve got passive income and spend most of
your time on your hobbies. You know that you make it if only you
could start. You aren’t the only one suffering from inertia
You have a picture of it in
your head—the life that is right for you. Your side hustle is doing well.
You’ve got passive income and spend most of your time on your hobbies.
You know that you make it if only you could start.
You
aren’t the only one suffering from inertia. There is a tendency inside all of
us to play it safe. We fear losing what we have far more than we value gaining
what we know we deserve. But if you can overcome just a few of these common
pitfalls, you’ll discover your best life.
Fear
of Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone
Fear
doesn’t deserve the bad rap it has gotten. We developed it for a reason: To
keep us safe. The early humans who were too fearless ended up dead.
Unfortunately,
our fears are often unjustified—or at least overstated. When our heart races
and our hands shake, our bodies think there’s a tiger when actually there might
be an opportunity.
Discomfort
is something we must live with, whether we like it or not. To become more
familiar with it, challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone by taking
a cold shower. Not only will it get you more familiar with your discomfort, but
it will also boost your mental health
Dream Killers
You
love your family. You love your friends. You trust your co-workers. You believe
your superiors are basically decent.
Even
if everyone in your life seems supportive, they may be dream killers. Their
tendencies aren’t always over-the-top remarks about how you can’t succeed.
Instead, they nit-pick at your dreams. They tell you that the risk is too big
or that the time isn’t right. They say, “Maybe someday.”
You
don’t have to break off relationships with these people. You just need to pay
attention to. Ask yourself, “Does this person support my dream fully?” If
someone doesn’t, remember that it is their problem, not yours. Stop sharing
this part of yourself with them. Redirect the conversation if they bring up
your dreams.
Waiting for the Perfect Time
When I have X amount of money saved up. When I meet the right
partner. When I weigh the right amount. When life isn’t so
hard.
There
is always a reason not to do something. Life is never going to stop throwing
unexpected challenges your way.
Instead
of waiting for the right time, use that drive you have now to start something new
and significant. When your energy is highest about an idea, you have the
momentum to begin. Once you have begun, get systems in place to start
actualizing your dream.
Follow the “2-Minute Rule.” Choose one thing to do today that
will only take 2-minutes to accomplish but moves you closer to your goal.
Tunnel Vision
You
know how things are going to turn out. You’ve run the simulation in your head
1,000 times. You’re going to fail. You don’t have the strength. You don’t have
the time necessary to thrive.
Charles
Munger, a partner of Warren Buffet, says that the human mind is a lot like the
human egg—once something gets in, it starts rejecting everything else. If
you’ve decided that there’s only one possible path, you may be closing off
other opportunities.
To
get over tunnel vision, always go at least 5 why’s deep. If you think, “I can’t
do it,” ask yourself, “Why?” You might answer “I can’t do it because I’m
scared.” “Why?” “I’m scared because I think they’ll reject me.” “Why?” “I think
they’ll reject me because…”
This
is a way of problem-solving that can help you get to root causes and address
deeper issues.
Feeling Stuck
You have tried everything. You have given it your all. This is
where it landed you—in a job you don’t want, a relationship that leaves you
unsatisfied, in a life, you don’t recognize. Each choice and ounce of effort
has led you further away from where you wanted to be and now you just can’t move.
Feeling
stuck is awful. You feel embarrassed about your lack of motivation. You attack
your character.
But
those things aren’t helping.
You need to begin noticing the thoughts you have that are
keeping you stuck. Establishing a formal meditation practice would do wonders
but if you can’t manage that, get into the practice of noting. When you think,
“Things will never change,” note to yourself, “I’m thinking things
will never change.” Bringing awareness to your thought process will help you
challenge it.
Fear of Success
How
will success affect your relationships? What if you can no longer trust those
around you? What if more and more people come to depend on you and your
strength—and you fail?
You
worry that you won’t be able to take a hit that big, but if the time comes you
will be able to handle it. If you don’t take that plunge, you are robbing
the world of your unique gifts.
Create
an inspirational notebook or file on your computer. Enter the names of
people you know who are very successful. Remember what they have risked to become an inspiration. Know that you can do the same.
The life that you want is out there waiting for you. With
these strategies, you’re ready to make it happen!
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